Suddenly there is clarity about your loved one's illness or condition. You have a conversation with a doctor or receive a letter... Perhaps this news comes as a blow, or conversely, a period of research is already behind you. Either way, the research process and receiving a diagnosis can have a lot of impact. Who knows, maybe it brings clarity, relief or raises new questions and uncertainties about the future. We give you four tips on what to look out for in the period after receiving a diagnosis.
What do I need to know?
There is all kinds of info to be found on the Internet, in books and through professionals. Take your time and be selective in googling. Too much information can also cause anxiety and not everything applies to you. Start thinking of questions first. Get out pen and paper and make a list of questions that come to mind. What information do you really need right now? If you are looking for help, don't hesitate to give Surplus a call.
Bad news at home, now what?
Illness could be thought of as an unwelcome guest in the home. It comes in (often unexpectedly), but no one anticipated it or chose for it. Do you shy away from it? Or do you instead enter the conversation? Will you perhaps behave differently than before? Discuss with each other what you need in this situation. Do you need information, do you want to solve problems, do you seek distraction or comfort?
Putting on positive glasses
The period after diagnosis often involves a lot of attention to the disease process. It requires processing and adjusting yourself. You may have an intense journey ahead of you... But, everyone is unique and you are more than just a diagnosis. You have your own character and life story. In addition, everyone needs to let normal life continue and relax in their time. Focus on what does go, what suits you and go for this! This will prevent you from walking on eggshells.
What do I discuss with others?
Make arrangements for how you share news and updates with those around you. Often friends, neighbors and co-workers have a general idea of an illness or condition, but can't accurately assess your needs. Consider the following questions:
- What do you share? And what exactly do you not?
- With whom do you share these developments?
- Do you do it in person, spontaneously or do you choose set moments? For example, via app or email?
